Living Alone and How I’m Dealing With It

Hello beautiful,

There comes a time in everyone’s life where you have to eventually go on your own. No questions asked, no thinking about it. You have just got to do it! As of June 1st, I have been living alone. I always thought that living on your own was scary and that eventually you’ll just end up not enjoying it so much. I was wrong.

At first it did get a bit lonely. There was no one to talk to, no one to laugh with, and nobody around to just be that small ounce of company that I needed.

I thought to myself, “Girl, you have been alone for most of your life. So this will be fine. You will be fine.” Turns out that is what I needed to hear myself say. Because in the light of having no one around to reassure me that I will be fine on my own, I had to reassure myself. I know I’ll be fine on my own, I always have been.

I have learnt to adjust to being alone for most of my life. I didn’t have much of a choice. I am like a cockroach, I can quickly and easily adjust to change and survive on my own. So I don’t really know what I was so worried about haha.

Living alone is totally different than when you are living with somebody else. You have to do everything on your own. Cook, clean, buy groceries, and just maintain your own little space. Now that I’m on my own, all of the house duties, have become my responsibility. I have always been self-sufficient so the cleaning and cooking part of it all was not much of a problem.

But who the hell knew, that food was so expensive? I went food shopping when I began living on my own and I literally cried on the inside when I saw how expensive food is. I’m not talking about those luxury food items you spoil yourself with every month, but just the basic price of bread and milk, almost comes to R50.

I can’t even have a set food budget every month now because the prices of food change every month. So now I have learnt, when I go food shopping, I have to go into the store with an open mind and hope for the best when I reach the cashier. Because girl, I will be walking out with 5 shopping bags and be crying in the car, let alone crying in the club, at how expensive living alone is.

All-in-all, living alone has its pros and cons. But I enjoy it. Whenever I go visiting friends or family, I literally cannot wait to get home and be by myself. Because I enjoy my own company more now than I ever have before. I’m finally in my own space where I can be and feel at home.

If you are living on your own and can give me some advice on how to budget for things every month. Your advice will be greatly appreciated.

Stay beautiful
Love always,

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7 comments

  1. Everytime I think about heading out on my own I remember how every single thing will become my responsibility. Thank you for sharing your story and all the best with this new journey

  2. Hey! Thanks for sharing this! I think many people tend to show a very unrealistic and amazing picture of adulting and going on your own and it’s actually quite challenging so thank you for being authentic! Tips I have is to shop around. I always check the price for what I need at a few different stores on the net before getting it. Sales and specials are awesome just be careful to not fall into the it’s on sale so il just get it, spiral (I have done this😂). If it’s on sale and you need it then it’s a win👍🏻 Try to get the stuff that doesn’t go off in bulk or in a bigger amount as it’s cheaper (the price will say how much per kg for the smaller quanity versus the bigger one). I also get fruit and veg as I use it so I get it weighed eg one tomato, two onions etc versus packs. Hope this helps!! E bucks also a win. Wishing you luck💕

  3. Hey hun, my advice is write down what you need to buy as the month progresses. When something is about to run out, write it down. Eventually you’ll have a list of all the things you really need. When you just sit at the end of the month and make a list you may add in unnecessary items or forget to add in an item you really need. When you live alone you don’t need to buy a whole lot of groceries every month cause you won’t run out of everything that fast. Like sugar, rice, coffee etc. may last you for more than a month

    Also, always look at different stores and compare their prices before going shopping. If you have extra cash then take advantage of sales and buy a little extra (non-perishables of course). This will save you a whole lot in the following months.

  4. Giiiirl, I am so happy for you. I feel like moving out and living alone is a loooot especially if you are so used to having people around. I think it’s a great experience too especially because the only dishes you have to wash are the ones YOU used! Lol. But all in all, I hope you enjoy and make your place a home for yourself 💕

  5. Hey Hun, so glad you decided to share this post. I don’t know about living alone but I can tell you about stocking up on essential non perishable items.
    I sometimes buy 10 cans of deodorant if I find it on sale and save like R100 in the process. I also buy alot of items on 3 for 2 specials, think tissues, sanitary products and haircare. The other thing that helps is rewards programs, ebucks, clicks and dischem. Also you can spend ebucks for fuel…. I know you might be doing a lot of these things already but I hope you find something here that helps. Also sometimes when it’s just you, eating out maybe cheaper than making a meal.

  6. I am so glad to hear that you are settling down. It is so scary but it is also so empowering to be so independent.
    Keep going girl, you have got the shit out of this xxx

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